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Erma Bombeck was a very wise woman.
February 7, 2014, 12:31 am
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Erma Bombeck was a very talented woman. Not only talented but she was wise. I got the impression when I read her books that she never thought she was a wise woman, she just figured she managed to muddle her way through  the process called life and she managed to do okay.  Her writings were hilarious and I could be heard roaring with laughter when I was reading one of her books.

She was witty and she didn’t seem to take life to seriously which in turn caused her to be a hilarious. She was the other,”I Love Lucy”, and the other, “Phyllis Diller” . Erma wasn’t in a league by herself, she was a part of the best league of funny ladies.  The thing that made these woman stand out is none of them, swore, cursed or told dirty jokes, yet they would have audiences in tears from extreme laughter.  Erma had her husband and children, Lucy had Ricky, Ethel  and Fred and Phyllis had her Fang. But Erma, she had a stage that is priceless, the books she wrote.  Erma said ” If you can’t make it better, you can laugh at it. and When humor goes, there goes civilization” Erma was funny and when I think of her and I often do, as if she is an old dear friend, I smile. That is the effect that the woman has on me and I never met her in my lifetime. In fact, for those of you who don’t know her or of her, she died several years ago. She passed away on April 22, 1996.  If you come across one of her many books take the time to read it and enjoy it. You won’t be sorry, I promise you.

 

I guess Erma has come to my mind today because one of her books was titled, “If Life is a Bowl of Cherries, What Am I Doing in the Pits?  ”   I, seem to discover myself being in the pits far to many times. So many times that I am wondering if there will ever be a shortage of pits!  There are many things I have learned since my divorce of 10 years ago. I learned that I have no clue about dating or how to date. I can interview you better for a LT relationship far better then I can figure out how one is suppose to date after the age of 29. And PULEZZZZZ online dating is worse then In Person dating. Dating after the age of 29 just sucks. Its to hard, I was married to long and at to young of an age to know anything about dating or how to date. I either like you or I don’t like you and just because I like you does not mean you are the ONE for ME! I have had far to many bad dates, far to many wrong relationships and as crazy as it sounds I knew they were wrong for me but I stayed in them, because I knew I’d never want to marry that fella, not in a million years.

One day it dawned on me, as long as I kept  went messing around with Mr Wrong , I’d never meet Mr Right for me. So, this is how it went down. I invited Mr Wrong over for Thanksgiving dinner, Mr Wrong slept on the couch all day as he was tired from having been up to late the night before. So Mr Wrong never did eat. I then proceeded to ask Mr Wrong if he wanted to move in with me, Mr Wrong looked at me and said, convince me why I should want to move in with you……..back track 6 months prior he was begging to move in with me and I said No. So now he needed convincing????? Instead I drove him home, dumped him out at his brothers house and never heard from him again. I later found out he’d been seeing someone else while we were suppose to be a couple. God you gotta love Facebook. You can get all the down low and dirt on people there.  Trust me when I say this, if your gut tells you he or she is messing around on you, listen to your gut, it is always right. If he says he does not believe in cheating, what he is saying is he cheats he just hasn’t gotten caught yet. 

So, now I’ve come to Mr. I, have known you for 4 plus years, we have fun, we have great conversations and enjoy doing things together but the one thing that is off balance is, He is angry. He is a unhappy camper about things that do not matter, about things he has no control over and over things that really do not effect him except that they make him angry. I love him, and he asked me to marry him and I said yes and then the Angry started showing up a lot. I spoke to him about  it over the phone, He admitted he is angry, angry about his past what he should have done, what he didn’t do and the stupid things he did do when he shouldn’t have. Bottom line he is not a happy camper and I am not the one to work on making him a happy camper. I no longer have a need or desire to Fix men. You need fixing go see a counselor or a pastor but don;t come to me. I am not qualified nor do I have the time or energy or desire. I am to old to teach men new tricks…..which includes how to like ones own self and how to be a good husband, friend and man in general. To me those are basic fundamentals that one should have acquired by  at least the age of 30 for a man.  Needless to say this gal is not going to marry this man. 

I have grown a little wiser over the past few years and I have also placed a lot of faith in God.  I have discovered that once I let go and let God do the driving in my life that things get better or at least run more smoothly each day. 

So for each of you out there that is single and not loving it, all I can say is have faith that God will bring the right person into your life and allow God to do it. SO far, when I have tried to do it, I have ended up in a mess, this time, I am, leaving it in Gods very capable hands. 

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